Today when browsing around facebook I came across something a good friend of mine posted on her wall, something I feel needs to be shared. I'm not sure where it was found and I did not write it myself, but whoever did helped me out today. I was pretty anxious all night and didn't sleep very well. I woke up today feeling about as drained as I did before going to bed. I had a terrible feeling in my stomach and could not figure out why. I was worried about everything under the sun, just rapid thoughts of depression and anxiety. It was absolutely terrible, but when I came upon this today it changed my whole outlook. I feel a lot of the time I am weighed down by my frustrations and fears that I forget I am choosing to keep it on my shoulders and not put it down. Everyday when something happens we have a decision of how we can react and we can choose what side we choose: negative or positive. But, if we choose the negative, I will warn you that that moment you had to react, that moment when you decided you wanted to react out of anger it stays with you. You pick it up like a ten pound weight and you keep moving through your day with it, you react negatively to others and punish them for whatever made you upset from the beginning, you radiate that negative part of yourself that you shouldn't be proud of, and mostly importantly even more than affecting others, your affecting YOU. You have wasted one day that at the beginning when you had that ONE thing that you could choose to shrug off, you couldn't do that and instead of feeling better because you yelled it off and put that other person in their place, you feel worse because you only have one life to live and you just spent 24 hours of it with hate and anger in your heart. I have people ask me all the time, "How do I keep myself from getting mad because of what this person does?" This person? Last time I checked you aren't being controlled on puppet strings by anyone and you have a mind and an attitude that you can control and if you can't the problem does not lie with that person, it lies within you. All we can do in this world is live with our heart, we should no matter what anyone does to us react with positivity and it is such a HARD thing to do, I am not good at being nice all the time, but I will say that I have had days when I think everyone puts in a lot of effort to get a rise out of me and I can proudly say that if I didn't want to be upset or mad I didn't go down that road. You choose how you react and in my opinion it is much easier to show the best side of you and have the kindness come back to you. I do believe in Karma, I think it makes perfect sense, what you give is what you get and while some may see, "Your Christian and you believe in Karma?" Let me just say that in the Bible you are told to tithe and that if you give everything to God, he will give you the things you need from life, how is that any different? All your doing is putting your best foot forward and I know anger is an easy thing to hold on to, it is much easier to pick up than to put down, but there comes a time when hate and anger can't keep eating you inside and you feel that you just have to make a CHANGE. So friends, I will tell you that I used to be an extremely angry person, held on to everything, and I treated everyone the same way I felt inside: Like crap. But, I'm a mother now and I'm a grown woman and I am now working my way to becoming a nicer person all around, it's an ongoing project and it takes loads of patience and willingness to change, and you don't have to tell anyone about your journey and your changes you want to make in yourself, I keep mine between my God, my husband, and I, but I am in no one close to being the person I want to be all around, nobody's perfect. But, I know today I'm not where I was yesterday. And that says I'm still a work in progress.
And now for the inspiration:
A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they'd be asked the "half empty or half full" question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she inquired:"How heavy is this glass of water?"
Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.
She replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it's not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn't change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes." She continued, "The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything."
Remember to put the glass down . :)